Dealing with Departures

Our cancer patient, husky, died in July of 2010. We took her to the vet and said our good byes. We didn’t stick around for the deed. Neither one of us wanted to see that.

I thought making the decision would be the hardest part, but after leaving the dog at the vet Sophia kept asking me, “Were shan?”. I didn’t know how to answer her. From what I understand, in general, children at her age don’t understand the permanence of death, so I had no idea what to say. I didn’t want to tell her Chelan went to sleep and then have her freak out when I try to take a nap or something, so I did the major cop-out. I told her that Chelan was staying at the vet’s office because she’s sick.

A healthy Chelan in 2005

Her usual pose

Camping at our property after diagnosis

Four months later, November 2010, I took our cat Bailey to the vet for a routine exam and shots. Not thinking about what I had said about Chelan I told her that Bailey had to see the doctor. “No! Sah-phia’s cat!” She protested.

I wonder if she still remembers that. When I took Bailey to the vet recently to get his teeth fixed I thought of that every time she asked me, “Where’s Bailey?”

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55 Flash non-Fiction Friday: Photo is in

I knew that taking the preschool photos would be like herding cats. Unfortunately, I was right. The circles around her eyes aren’t from a lack of sleep. No, the puffiness is from crying. My guess is that taking photos went much like the trip to the doctor and trying to get her on the scale.

Sophia's preschool photo

55 Flash Fiction Friday

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Baby Turkey

This time last year, I was two weeks away from delivering Lukas.  I was so worried that he would come early that I planned and began making mini Thanksgiving meals the week before the Thanksgiving week.  I love Thanksgiving food. I didn’t want to miss out and even though I’m sure the hospital would provide a Thanksgiving themed meal I’m equally sure it would not compare at all. The first day of my mini Thanksgiving dinners week I made herb-roasted turkey breast and apple-cranberry dressing.  The recipe for the turkey breast is from Ina Garten and was published in the November Costco Connection.

Herb-Roasted Turkey Breast

  • 1 whole bone-in turkey breast, 6 1/2 to 7 pounds
  • 1 tablespoon minced garlic (3 cloves)
  • 2 teaspoons dry mustard
  • 1 tablespoon chopped fresh rosemary leaves
  • 1 tablespoon chopped fresh sage leaves
  • 1 teaspoon chopped fresh thyme leaves
  • 2 teaspoons kosher salt
  • 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
  • 2 tablespoons good olive oil
  • 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice
  • 1 cup dry white wine

Preheat the oven to 325 degrees F. Place the turkey breast, skin side up, on a rack in a roasting pan.

In a small bowl, combine the garlic, mustard, herbs, salt, pepper, olive oil, and lemon juice to make a paste. Loosen the skin from the meat gently with your fingers and smear half of the paste directly on the meat. Spread the remaining paste evenly on the skin. Pour the wine into the bottom of the roasting pan.

Roast the turkey for 1 3/4 to 2 hours, until the skin is golden brown and an instant-read thermometer registers 165 degrees F when inserted into the thickest and meatiest areas of the breast. (I test in several places.) If the skin is over-browning, cover the breast loosely with aluminum foil. When the turkey is done, cover with foil and allow it to rest at room temperature for 15 minutes. Slice and serve with the pan juices spooned over the turkey.

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Food for Gumming

I told Sophia we had to take Baily, our cat, to the vet so that his teeth can be fixed. “But I don’t like shots.” She said.

“You’re not getting shots. We’re taking Bailey in to get his teeth fixed.”

“But Bailey doesn’t like shots.”

“No one likes shots. Bailey isn’t getting shots. The doctor just needs to make Bailey’s teeth stop hurting.”

“Teef hurt?”

“Yes his teeth hurt.”

“Well my teef hurt.”

“Maybe we should take you to a dentist then.”

“But I don’t like shots.”

Oh when will I be able to have normal conversations with her? She makes my head spin.

The cat wasn’t being compliant about entering the kitty kennel for his short car ride to the vet so I wound up somehow holding his four paws with one hand and shoving him head first into the crate. I don’t know how I did it really but I know the cat wasn’t happy about it and it made Lukas laugh. Now that the boy butt scoots, he’s good at herding cats to me. It’s amazing what a semi mobile baby can do.

The ladies at the veterinary office thought I was quite a site. I had Lukas in the Ergo baby carrier, clutching a cat in his kennel, and a four year old wearing a purple and blue horizontal striped dress with a solid blue shirt over it, and green and white horizontal striped knee length shorts. She was also sporting one white sock and one pink black bear print sock from Alaska plus carrying her stuffed polar bear who now wears a butterfly print shirt and a diaper. But her hair was brushed and that was the important part.

We dropped off the cat and for the rest of the day I kept hearing, “Where’s Bailey?”

“We left him at the Vet’s office so that they can fix his teeth.”

“Can we get Bailey?”

“We’ll get Bailey later today.”

When the time came to pick Bailey up I told Sophia, “Ok let’s go get Bailey from the Vet’s office.”

“Hhhmm maybe later.” She said. Oh that kid kills me.

Bailey is back home safe and sound. They removed his fang-like K9 teeth. His teeth were rotting out of his mouth and quite infected. He’ll be on the nasty smelling canned cat food for a week and then he should be able to gum the crunchy kibble food.

Bailey after the vet visit

Speaking of gumming food…Lukas was eleven months old as of November 1st and the boy still doesn’t have a single tooth. Not one. This is fine on the breastfeeding front but I’m running out of things to give the growing boy that he can gum.

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Fair Warm Up

The first fair we go to for the season is actually the state fair. It’s smaller, more down home, very quaint. It took Sophia three hours to warm up to the idea of being there this year, but we waited and it happened. She even went on some of the rides ALL BY HERSELF.

Sophia on the carousal

Picture taken 8/28/2011

Sophia going down a slide

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Adding More to the Therapy Fund

Wild Kratts is a PBS cartoon about this team that saves animals from various things, some caused by humans and some just natural predators or other elements. Each show features one or two particular animals and two of the characters, the Kratt brothers, are given ‘creature powers’ to turn into those animals and save the day using those special powers.

While watching the show yesterday Sophia asked me if I could buy her some creature powers. I posted that on Facebook and then Kurt commented, “She already has some. She can sleep like a sloth, jump like a kangaroo, climb like a monkey and poop like an elephant.”

That evening I went to a tamale cooking class and Kurt put both kids to bed. Sophia went to the bathroom, came out completely nekkid, and tells Kurt, “Come here. Look, I made stinky.” He goes in to see and then she says, “Take a picture!” Kurt told her no and then she again demanded, “Take a picture!” It wasn’t an elephant poop. I know this because he actually took a picture of the contents of the toilet and then showed it to me.

Maybe she has seen me run to get the camera a few too many times to capture the baby squeezins diaper of the month. I’ll be adding some money to the therapy fund. Maybe I should take donations. I’m not sure we have enough. Kurt even asked if I wanted it for a post. Infant squeezins is one thing. I’m drawing a line. I know it’s blurry but it’s there…somewhere.

Climbing like a monkey

Picture taken 10/2/2011.

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Monkey Boy and Pink Fairy Princess Halloween

Sophia’s first Halloween she was only one month old. We of course stayed home that year and handed out candy. I’ll never forget the stupid teenage boy that spotted Sophia across the room with her already long brown troll-doll hair and asked, “What is that? Is that a kitten?” Uumm no. “Oh, it’s a baby” he says, and then looks at me, “cute baby.” Uuhh yeah too late asshole.

The second Halloween we went with a group of friends to a neighborhood near them. I can’t remember if I carried Sophia in a front pack or pushed her in a stroller, but either way there was very little participation from her not that we expected much from a one year old. It was obvious from an early age that I would never need to warn Sophia about strangers. She would not even take a piece of candy from a bowl or bucket at age one.

At age two she mostly stayed in the stroller and would occasionally allow us to carry her up to the door. I think a couple of times she may have even picked out a piece of candy from a bowl. We still didn’t expect much from her and just the fact that she didn’t have a meltdown made it a great Halloween. It’s really hard to ruin a Halloween anyway.

Last year there wasn’t any participation from Sophia at all. She sat in the stroller the whole time. The only candy she received was from her friends (other three year olds) putting some in her bucket. We were disappointed that she never warned up to trick-or-treating last year, but Kurt was adopted by our friend’s three year old and he got to take her trick-or-treating. I was too pregnant to keep up. I just stood at the end of driveways or tried to waddle a head start to the next house.

This year was FANTASTIC! I think there was a trial run of trick or treating at preschool. She came home on the 29th, her last day for the week, and kept saying, “trick or treat”. On Halloween we had some friends over and headed out to terrorize our tiny town in sugared up mob style. It took Sophia a couple houses to get the idea of what was going on, but she did it. For some of the houses I held her hand and for others it was Kurt. I had a hard time keeping up with the other kids because I was carrying the Lukas monkey in the front pack.

Pink Princess Sophia

Because no princess costume is complete without a polar bear wearing a butterfly shirt. ;-)

Monkey Boy Lukas

At one house the mob of kids from our group was at a door and had already said their trick or treat line – Sophia pulled at my hand and rather frantically said, “trick or treat” as if she wouldn’t get anything if the magical Halloween phrase wasn’t uttered. That right there is the magical fun of producing spawn with an engineer. The world is such a black and white place with special rules for everything and each must be followed to the letter.

She was thrilled to be getting candy, but then what child wouldn’t. I didn’t hear a lot of giggling or chatter from her as one would expect from a child collecting candy. My child was on a mission, but I know she had fun because when we asked her in the car on the way home she said, “yes” without hesitation. She also asked me in the morning, “Can friends come over today?” As funny as I think it is that she believes the Halloween rules to be set in stone, I think it’s even more awesome that she’s enjoying normal childhood activities.

Lite Devil Lukas

It's supposed to read, "Little Devil", but the way he's sitting and the angle I took the photo from it looks like, "Lite Evil". :P

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Baby Squeezins: Diaper of the Month

Lukas sat in his booster seat situated to the side of the dinner table. He reached across the tray and pulled. His face turned beet red. I tried to finish my dinner while Kurt cheered him on with, “Come on boy, poop!”, and then Sophia parroting her father.

After the poop show was over and dinner was finished I went to change the boy despite the lack of stench. Nothing. Later I saw Lukas scooting around the toy room, then stop, lean forward, and then continue scooting around. That time a stench followed the boy. Taken on the 18th of October with my Nikon D60 for your high-resolution pleasure, I now present to you the double, double over butt-molded poop streak. The Baby Squeezins, Diaper of the Month.

double, double over play-doh poop streak

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Dirty Kurtie’s Tunes: Curious George

We aren’t proud of ourselves. We did it for you. If you’ve been pining away for a Dirty Kurtie Twisted Tune today is your day.

A couple or few months ago (I’m not sure which because there was a long span of sleepless night there for a while) Kurt and I were watching Curious George with Sophia. While listening to the theme song Kurt said, he heard something different from what they said. He told me, and I could not shake it. After that, every time I watched the show with my then three-year old that is what I heard. As punishment, I made Kurt further defile the lyrics of the current favorite children’s show in our household. It is now with great regret that I present to you the greatly mangled version of a much-loved children’s show… To the tune from the theme song of Curious George – Dirty Kurtie’s version goes like this:

You never do know who’s in your bed
A hot, young stripper or a guy named Fred
When you’re bi-curious, Bi-Curious George
(Swing!)

Well everything (everything!) is so glorious (glorious!)
And everything (everything!) is so wonderous (wonderous!)
There’s more to explore
When you act like a whore
And make friends like this,
A guy to kiss
(Whooooa!)

Get bi-curious (bi-curious!) and that’s marvelous (marvelous!)
You’ll sleep with a slut
And take it in the butt
If you ask yourself, who needs tits?
Like bi-curious, bi-curious, Bi-Curious George

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