Baby shower birthday

My baby shower / Kurt’s birthday party was on Saturday. It was a blast! Kurt and I reserved a whirlyball court for two hours. I couldn’t play because I’m pregnant (duh), but I had fun sitting on the sidelines with two other preggos watching all these adults (including both of my parents) speeding along in WhirlyBugs (bumper cars) with hand-held scoops trying to propel a whiffle ball at their scoring target. After the two hours, we went outside where there were some tables, I opened the baby shower gifts, and Kurt opened his birthday gifts. For Kurt’s birthday present, I had found a website that I could search for pictures off Disney movies and have them made into T-shirts and other apparel. I picked the dinosaur off the movie “Meet the Robinsons” and had it placed on T-shirt for Kurt and a matching baby onesie. Then I took it to a print shop in town and had them place the one line from the movie that everyone knows from the Super Bowl commercial (or the movie if you actually watched it), “I Have A Big Head…and Little Arms” on both garments. Happy THIRTY-FIFTH Kurtie!

After that, we all went to Buca di Beppo. I can’t remember the stories shared, but just like at my thirtieth birthday it was leaked out that someone in our party was having a birthday so they brought out the candelabrum (Kurt’s candelabrum only had three candles on it though). The waiter asked which one of us was celebrating our birthday. I pointed to the birthday boy who, as usual, happened to be wearing the brightest shirt of anyone around. That night he was in his Kawasaki green shirt. Then the waiter asked the name of our birthday boy and one of Kurt’s coworkers called out “Kermit”. We sung the birthday song using Kurt’s new name – loudly. It’s not easy being green. :P

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Pregnancy updates

So, what have I been doing for the past week? On Wednesday the 15th, I noticed my first stretch marks. I’m so disappointed, but they aren’t on my belly. They’re on my lower back/the very top of my butt. I would say it’s just below my waistline, but it’s hard to tell where that is/was these days. I think the stretch marks are from my hips spreading, maybe? Anyway, they’re there and they’re ugly red streaks.

On Friday the 17th, I had my monthly doctor appointment. Sophia’s heart rate is still the same, and she’s kicking/moving a lot. I’ve gained five pounds since my last appointment. For those of you who have lost track that means I now weigh in at 165 pounds. I’ve been warned that at my next appointment I get to have a vaginal and anal swab for strep – oh joyous days. On the up side, he gave me some pills to help with the heartburn – YAY!! My next appointment will be next week and after that, I’ll have weekly appointments. I’m so scared and excited, mostly scared.

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Feather Plucking

On Friday, I took Gandalf to the vet. She said that if his feather chewing wasn’t from an irritation to begin with it certainly is now because all he has on that one wing are poky itchy feather stubs. She said the good thing is that he isn’t picking at his skin and that because he’s plucking his wing it’s unlikely he’ll pluck his body (body pluckers tend to get cold easy). So right now, he’s on two medications. One medication is to relieve the itchiness and the other is an herbal equivalent to birdy Valium to take the edge off in case he’s stressing about changes in his environment (my pregnancy). An article about the herbal treatment Gandalf’s vet prescribed was published in Exotic Dvm magazine.

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Breastfeeding class

I know I haven’t posted in a while. I’m still alive (pregnant but living) and the baby’s still kickin’

On Tuesday August 14th I went to the “Feeding your baby” class. That was a great class. I learned quite a bit. It’s funny that the class is supposed to cover both formula and breast-feeding but that only about twenty minutes of the hour and a half class was about bottle-feeding. My cliff notes to that section are – follow the damn directions on the can. That’s about it. Oh and don’t hold a baby horizontal to the floor to bottle-feed. The baby should be at an angle as if he or she is being held up to the breast in order to avoid ear infections. Holding the baby at an angle helps keep fluids draining properly as baby feeds. Other than those two major tips on bottle-feeding, it’s the natural way of feeding that we all have forgotten about. The part of the class that we should already know about, the part we should have learned from our mothers, sisters, aunts and so on was what was most covered. That seems wrong to me. Not that bottle-feeding is wrong, just that none of us seem to know how our bodies are supposed to work anymore. Someone might think that the hospital I’m going to leans more towards a non-medical, home birth type of deal where no one uses medication during labor, but no, we’re just that out of touch with the natural ways of things.

Before this class, I kept hearing from various people that breast feeding hurts and that you get sore cracked nipples. I really want to breast feed because I also keep hearing how healthy it is for the baby, but how could anyone breast feed for more than a few weeks if it hurts so much? The first thing I learned in the breastfeeding portion of the class was that it’s not supposed to hurt (boobs and nipples will be tender the first few weeks but actual breastfeeding shouldn’t hurt), and if it does, it’s probably due to the baby not latching properly. The nurse facilitating the class taught us how to hold the baby and the basic way to get a baby to latch. She also went over what it should look like when the baby is latched properly, how a suckling baby should sound when properly latched, and how to detach baby from boob if he or she isn’t attached err I mean latched on right. She also went over what to do when breasts become engorged, how to reduce swelling (cabbage leaves anyone?) and what to do if they’re so engorged that the nipple disappeared and baby has a hard time latching.

A lot of the information the nurse covered was in the book, Pregnancy Childbirth and the Newborn: The Complete Guide, that we received in our childbirth preparation class. As a matter a fact most of it is in there. Some of the cool tips I noticed were not there, but many of those can be found in What to Expect When You’re Expecting, Third Edition. Thank you to the friend that sent me that book! Yes, I found it incredibly useful and I have in fact been reading it. One tip the nurse gave that I noticed wasn’t in either book (or maybe I missed it) was when you have a bad latch don’t try to pull the baby off! Place your finger at the corner of the baby’s mouth to break the suction.

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Potato heartburn

Yesterday I told Kurt that I had a potato for lunch and I STILL got heartburn. He wasn’t fazed by this at all until this morning when he saw me baking to small-ish potatoes for today’s lunch. “You really got heartburn from potatoes?” Yep. “What else did you put on it?” Salt and some lime (I realize this may sound gross to most Americans but you eat corn beef hash, so you really don’t have a leg to stand on). I also got heartburn from eating a single banana. – Banana’s, you know, one of the first bland solid foods you give a BABY! Kurt couldn’t believe it. “Damn, you’re bland!” Yep, it doesn’t get much worse than that. We’ve come to the conclusion that because my stomach isn’t growing out as much as other women Sophia must be pushing all my insides aside and I just don’t have room for food.

I’ll tell you what Sophia you push my belly out to make room for yourself so that mommy can eat for the both of us; just don’t give me stretch marks. Listen to me; I’m playing lets make a deal with a fetus!

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Childbirth preparation class

Last week I briefly mentioned the childbirth preparation class that Kurt and I took. This Saturday was the second half of that class and they showed another one of *those* movies. In both of the vaginal birth movies that they showed as the baby comes out they place her on mom’s chest. While both movies moved me to near tears at that very scene I still think that’s just disgusting – don’t they realized where that baby has been? For nine months she’s been swimming in her own urine!!

Kurt’s coworkers have been telling him that many of the classes are a waste of time. The consensus in the circle of his coworkers seems is to just take the CPR and feeding your baby classes, but I did learn some things that I think are helpful in the childbirth preparation class like how to know when you’re having the real contractions, when to head to the hospital, differences in pain killers, and what the hospital will provide during labor and after the birth. They gave us a book (Pregnancy Childbirth and the Newborn: The Complete Guide), but the instructor left it up to us to actually read it on our own, which is nice. She gave us the overview of many different things and the parts that I want more information on I can look up in a book recommended by the hospital vs. trying to figure out which website is really telling me the truth!

The part that didn’t help me at all was seeing those movies! On the first Saturday they showed a birth that was 100% all natural and on this Saturday they showed us one that was a vaginal birth but the mom had an epidural. They showed where and how the epidural is inserted, which didn’t seem as bad as I thought, but then there is the IV, the catheter (didn’t actually see that inserted – thank goodness) and the internal baby monitor. I don’t want to be hooked up to so much stuff. Wires, tubes such hanging off of and out of me – I’ll pass thank you. The idea of feeling so much pain isn’t incredibly enduring to me either. Just because I live with Kurt doesn’t mean I’m a masochist! – He’s an entirely different kind of pain in the ass. After seeing that movie I was thinking – oh I just can’t do this vaginally at all. Then they showed us an unplanned cesarean section. Using movie animation they showed where and how the cut is done, but even with mere animation – oh I can’t do that either. I’m sorry Sophia but you’re just going to have to stay where you are. Just keep on kicking around in there. Heartburn isn’t so bad. I can handle some heartburn.

At the end of the movie about the cesarean section the couple was shown with their now toddler and they talked about the experience. They had wanted an all-natural birth, but the baby was just too big. Somewhere in their background story the father made the comment that the birth of his daughter was the most important moment in his life. I didn’t see it and probably shouldn’t mention it, but Kurt told me later that… (looking around the room – sssshhh) he started tearing up a bit at that scene.

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Checking off the “to do” list

I still have not completed the first set of tasks I set for myself, but I did finish ¾ of last week’s tasks. I also made more food to freeze for Gandalf so that I don’t run out just before or too soon after Sophia is born. It wasn’t on any of my official to do lists, but since it’s about a four-hour process even when I’m not waddling around the kitchen like a duck I consider it a good accomplishment that I’m glad is now out of the way.

I made the after baby shower dinner reservations, the veterinary appointment for Gandalf, and doctor appointment for myself. I have not called the potential babysitter yet, but thank you Leendaluu for those helpful questions. I didn’t even think about asking who else will be visiting while my kid is there. I am keen on the day planning part though because I certainly don’t want to pay someone who will use the TV as a sitter. If the laws allowed for it I don’t mind if she sits everyone down to watch Sesame Street and/or whatever popular kids show for an hour or two, but beyond that I would hope there would be some adult interaction and play time.

If anyone else has some questions to always ask a new sitter that I might not have thought of, Please feel free to send them my way!

This week’s goal is to finish the goals of the previous two weeks (do you see the pattern here?). My other goals are to get some tamales made so that I don’t have to do much cooking soon after Sophia is born and have fun at my baby shower on Saturday!! :)

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Pampered Pregnancy

On Thursday I went to a teriyaki restaurant for lunch that I hadn’t been to since I started showing. I used to go their fairly frequently with one of my now ex-coworkers so the lady recognized me right away. She said she would be right with me as she passed by to had takeout to another customer in the dining area, but then she looked at my belly and stopped in her tracks, “OH, really?”. Yep I’m really pregnant. She handed the food to the other customer and then came back to me. She put one hand on my back on one on my belly, “oh my – when are you due? Is it a girl or a boy?” Normally I wouldn’t let a stranger just reach out and lay their hand on my belly, but she isn’t a complete stranger and she’s so sweet anyway. I told her it’s a girl and that I’m due at the end of September. “September? – you’re so small!?” Ugg here is the difficult part for me. I feel so odd that my stomach doesn’t stick out as much as others that are due at the same time I am. Even people that are a couple months behind me have bigger bellies. So far the doc has given me all thumbs up with where everything is placed, but of course I still have my paranoid delusions that something might be wrong. I guess I just don’t want to get my hope up too high that I might actually have a normal human child. – Ok between Kurt and I “normal” might be asking too much, but healthy. Can I have healthy? I told the teriyaki lady that she was due at the end of September, so my belly still had some growing to do. I placed my order and then she quickly grabbed a plate with some almond/coconut flavored wafer like cookies, guided me to a table in the dining area, and pulled a chair out for me. Odd – she usually doesn’t give people that are waiting any cookies. My order was done a lot faster than usual, but then again the place was pretty slow that day. She helped me out of the chair, guided me by the arm to the door, and even opened the door for me. She’s so sweet. I usually don’t allow myself to be pampered like that. I’m the type that generally likes to do everything on my own. I’m not an invalid after all – I’m just pregnant. As a matter a fact on Sunday Kurt had to drag me out of the kitchen and tell me to go sit down on the couch and take a break. I didn’t realize that I had been up and about doing various chores from 10am to about 6pm almost nonstop.

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New dad’s class

Kurt’s “New dad’s class” was supposed to be on August 8th, but he didn’t go. It was his idea to sign up for that class in the first place, but he talked himself out of going. He figured as soon as he walked into the class with his motorcycle helmet the guys would tell him, “Oh you’ll have to give that up”. I guess he has already had a coworker talk to him about it and was amazed that I hadn’t *made* Kurt sell his toys, like I’m going to tell him what he can an can’t do with his own money or say he can’t have his one hobby.

I’m a little disappointed that he didn’t go because I was hoping that it would be a helpful class and make him a little less stressed about being a dad. What am I going to do though, scold him for not taking the class that was his idea to begin with? Anyway I think he might be doing better with the idea of having full control over a tiny human on his own. The other day he told me he was glad about the timing of her due date. I asked him why and he said, “Because she’ll be a week old when she gets to see her first motorcycle race with me.” – Awww that’s so cute (I almost cried). He added that she wouldn’t be able to see that far yet, so I told him he’ll just have to bring the TV closer :P

I know it’s just horrible that he isn’t talking about reading to her as part of quality time with dad, but at least it’s not “Baby Einstein“.

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Discrimination at Huntwood Industries

Woman alleges she was fired for cohabitation
Virginia DeLeon
Staff writer
August 9, 2007

A former Huntwood Industries employee is suing the company, alleging she lost her job because her boss disapproved of the fact that she was an unmarried woman living with her boyfriend.

OH my! Watch out for locust falling from the sky. The end of the world is coming when you stop judging the personal lives of your employees. Doesn’t it say something in the bible (since the US is about 80% Christian I’m just assuming they follow some form of that bible) about casting the first stone – how does that one go again?

In a lawsuit recently filed in Spokane County Superior Court, Alisha Blimka, of Spokane, claims she was singled out almost two years ago because of her marital status and because she did not share her employers’ religious beliefs.

Huntwood President Tim Hunt said he had yet to see the lawsuit Wednesday, but stressed that his company would never mistreat its employees. “I can tell you emphatically that we don’t discriminate,” he said. “But it doesn’t keep people from wanting to sue us.”

You know uumm suing one’s employer isn’t exactly an everyday occurrence, especially when you only have 750 employees. Usually if someone is going to take that step – something happened and they have the documentation to prove it.

One of the Spokane area’s largest manufacturers, Huntwood Industries is a wood-manufacturing company with about 750 workers. Last fall, the Liberty Lake company laid off roughly 100 workers as a result of a national downturn in the wood products market.

Excuse me, but what does that have to do with the lawsuit? Last fall was 2006. This woman was fired in fall of 2005.

Blimka, who worked in Huntwood’s payroll department, lost her job on Oct. 17, 2005. According to the lawsuit, she received a “personnel action notice” signed by supervisor Darrick Hunt in March 2005 stating that she would be discharged “if not married by 12/31/05.” A copy of the notice was included in the court filings. Hunt is the son of Huntwood owners Tim and Resa Hunt.

Ahh the paper trail. Good girl for keeping that one!

“We believe that as set forth in the complaint, the allegations of religious discrimination and marital status discrimination — a violation of Washington state law — is supported not only by our client’s testimony but also by the personnel action notice,” said Kammi Mencke, Blimka’s attorney. “It is our understanding that (Huntwood owners) Tim and Resa Hunt have a religious belief that does not support two people who are unmarried living together. … We believe Huntwood’s religious beliefs conflicted with Alisha’s.”

Mencke declined to answer questions about Blimka’s faith, stating only that Blimka had recently received a raise and good evaluations before her job was terminated.

I don’t understand why we even need to know Blimka’s faith. This isn’t or shouldn’t be a case of who follows which religion and whose religion is the correct one. This is about not medaling in an employee’s private life. It’s not an employer’s job to make sure it’s employees are following what they deem a righteous path. Blimka might even follow the same religion as the company owners but not follow the rules as strictly.

Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 prohibits employers with 14 or more employees from discriminating against individuals because of their religious beliefs or practices, according to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. “Employees cannot be forced to participate — or not participate — in a religious activity as a condition of employment,” according to the act.

Woo!

In the past, Tim and Resa Hunt have publicly stated the importance of faith in how they view their roles as company owners. “We feel the Lord has placed a blessing on this company and allowed us to have a vision for it,” Resa Hunt told the newspaper in February 2006.

Vision it however you’d like, but there are these pesky things called antidiscrimination laws. Your own bible says it’s not up to you to judge others (again I’m assuming they’re some variation of Christian).

According to the lawsuit, Blimka started working at Huntwood in July 2004 and was asked about her religious beliefs by Huntwood owners and managers during the course of her employment. Blimka had worked in the company’s small payroll department, Mencke said, and people knew she was living with her boyfriend. It wasn’t clear, however, what led to the personnel action notice.

Being asked about my beliefs by the owners and managers would have made bells and whistles go off in my head. Not that it’s her fault for answering I mean a little bit of personal life always comes out at work especially if you become friends with coworkers outside of work. It’s known at my job that I’m not married. I don’t wear a ring and I always refer to Kurt as my boyfriend. – That’s right I’m pregnant and not married. And I have no intention of getting married either! – DEAL WITH IT!

When asked about Blimka’s response to the notice and why she didn’t immediately report it to the EEOC, Mencke responded: “I’m not at liberty to answer that.”

Now that’s something I’d like to know, but it’s an ongoing case – yadda yadda

The complaint also lists former Huntwood administrative assistant, Tracy Schneiderman of Spokane, as a plaintiff in the case.

After learning about what happened to her co-worker, Schneiderman told her boss, Ron Schutz, about Blimka’s personnel action notice. She also called attention to the working conditions at Huntwood’s production floor, where her husband, Stephen, was working, according to the complaint. She told him that employees in the production department were working long hours during the summer and early fall of 2005 but were not receiving their meal and rest periods, according to the lawsuit.

Tracy Schneiderman, who started working at Huntwood in July 2004, also lost her job on Oct. 17, 2005 — a week after talking to her supervisor about Blimka’s notice, according to Mencke. Until then, Schneiderman had received raises and good evaluations from her supervisors, Mencke said. The lawsuit claims she was the victim of retaliation.

Oh I hope Schneiderman has some kind of written documentation about that conversation (an email would be fantastic because it’s date stamped and everything) otherwise her specific case looks pretty weak.

Both Blimka and Schneiderman were told that they were “let go based on a reduction in force,” Mencke said. It was unclear, however, how many others lost their jobs that day.

How can that be unclear? Doesn’t the company keep records?

Schneiderman’s husband, Stephen Schneiderman, also lost his job, Mencke said, but the attorney didn’t know the date when he was laid off.

Although it’s been almost two years since Blimka and Tracy Schneiderman lost their jobs at Huntwood, the women filed their lawsuit only last month because they were waiting for the state Human Rights Commission to finish its investigation.

The commission found there was “not sufficient evidence that an unfair practice has occurred,” according to Mencke. Her clients, however, are proceeding with the lawsuit because “the personnel action notice is pretty clear on its face that she was to be terminated because she wasn’t married,” she said.

How could the Human Rights Commission come to that conclusion? Unless they found that the company fairly fires all unmarried cohabiters and the people that question such a ridicules practice, and they totally missed Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. I mean the woman had a personnel action notice stating that if she wasn’t married by the end of the year she would be fired. How much more blantent can they be about it?

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